The Art of Leading and Creating Attraction

You are about to ask a beautiful women out? Or you have a date coming up? And now you‘re asking yourself, whether you should decide what you’ll be doing with her? Or should you ask her? Should it all be pre-planned or is it better to decide spontaneously after meeting up?

In general, it’s very attractive to be able to take responsibility in the interaction with women. On a date, that means to lead the way.

At the same time it’s a great chance to set yourself apart. Mainly, because there aren’t many people, who are willing to do that anymore. Most just talk. For example, a new friend asked me recently to go hiking. He’s not new to the area and goes on hikes regularly. After I agreed, he asked where we should go. I was busy and wanted to test him. I suggested an area and asked, if he has any idea. Answer: “Not really to be honest.” So, being able to take responsibility is one of the main traits, that make you attractive and at the same time it’s a rare strength to have.

Taking responsibility requires you to make decisions. That in turn, requires that you trust in yourself. You need to know what you want. That portraits confidence, which is even more important to have in dating than responsibility.

I’d say that’s great news. You never have to do anything you don’t like. You just offer things you would do, even if she would not be with you. Or at least a combination of things that you like and that facilitate getting closer.

Also, women like mystery. So, just let her discover on the date moment by moment, what you have planned for her. In my experience, women love it. Feminine women don’t usually ask where you’re heading to. If you turn left, she turns left; if you go right, she goes right. Therefore, you can also use this as a check, how much she is attracted to you already. How much does she trust you. How comfortable does she feel with you. Just by noticing, when she’s asking for the first time where the two of you are heading towards. Does she ask or look nervous, if you lead her through a dark sketchy back alley.

While taking the lead is important, it’s crucial to strike a balance. You want to be in control, without being controlling. Have a general plan for the evening, including estimated times for each activity. However, be open to good spontaneous suggestions from her. In my experience that doesn’t happen very often, though.

Usually men are doing too much, when it comes to dating women. This situation is one of the rare chances, to actually get into action mode and raise her attraction by doing so.

Take the lead:

Be willing to lead from now on in dating. You don’t have to do it in other areas to be successful in a relationship, but use all situations as a training ground. Get into the habit, as often as possible.
On a date, don’t ask, invite her to follow your plan. So she can lean back and relax.

Have a plan for the whole evening and reserve at estimated times. At the restaurant where you go first and maybe also for the bar afterwards for example.

If you have the chance to skip the last points on your list and take her to your place, do so of course. If she ends the date prematurely though, allow it without mentioning, that you had more planned for her.

So if you want my help für your personal situation, just go to the contact area on my website and book a 1 on 1 coaching session with me.

Thank you for your trust, lots of success, bye for now.