Does the following situation sound familiar to you? You meet a woman that takes your breath away, and now you want her to like you – or ideally, to fall madly in love with you.

But as the saying goes, grass doesn’t grow faster, just because you pull on it. Unfortunately, it’s the same with women and dating. Men are mostly visually driven in the dating process, especially in the beginning. That means we can be instantly captivated by a woman’s appearance, and for a while we will overlook many shortcomings as long as we like what we see. Women are different. While men fall in love with their eyes, women fall in love with their ears. She is focused on your behavior – what you say, what you’re doing and how. Of course, this takes more time to observe. And that’s just part of why it takes longer for women’s attraction to rise. She needs to wonder about you and your actions. She needs time to reflect on your last interaction. Before a date, she will tell her best friend about you, she will decide what to wear, ask herself where you’ll take her and imagine how it will go. All of that raises her attraction to you and all of this needs what? Exactly, time.

So, in general you need to give her space to fall for you. Like with a flower, you risk damaging something beautiful, before it even had the chance to thrive. Instead of trying to force things, let them unfold naturally. Imagine yourself already so successful, that you have three dates per week. Would you really be so fixated on one woman and try to make her want you more? Or would you adopt a more relaxed attitude, knowing that if it doesn’t work out with one lady, it wasn’t meant to be and there are more opportunities waiting for you. Set the intention to develop the mindset of an attractive man and enjoy a more relaxed vibe, which will attract women to you naturally, instead of desperately trying to squeeze every opportunity dry.

Try it out, thank me later.