It depends on what has been lost in the relationship. Often, it’s the attraction between both partners – something essential for love to grow on.

If the issue is that the man is no longer taking the responsibility for maintaining that attraction, he should ask himself the following question:

Am I still the man she initially fell in love with? If not, why?

Men who are successful in dating often display certain traits that naturally attract women.

Since I’ve already mentioned responsibility – this is a big one that often gets overlooked. Is he still making decisions? Does he still suggest things to do together? Does he have the area of finances under control? Does he still take care of his fitness? Does he have a routine for his mental health?

Confidence – more well-known but still often underestimated – while he stood by his opinions on the first date, does he now regularly compromise just to avoid fights? Does he still make time for things that excite him outside the relationship? Distance can work like magic when it comes to attraction – something we know since Isaac Newton.

Charm – does he still give her enough attention, listens closely, asks good questions, and remembers details? This is something that often comes naturally in the early stages of dating but tends to be lost over time. Humor – does he stay relaxed and can crack a joke even in emotionally charged situations to lighten the mood?

Men often drop the behaviors that made them attractive once a label is placed on the interaction: “relationship,” “marriage.” But seduction never stops.

What can a woman do to save the relationship? If the issue actually is a loss of attraction, which is often the case – it just seems too simple – she could encourage him to become the man she originally met again. Most women do this intuitively as soon as we men let go of the reins. But men often misinterpret these signals. In general, men understand these social dynamics far less than women, for whom it’s already instinctively clear. And most women don’t want to have to explain it to him. It’s more likely that she will look for a man who either picked up on it naturally while growing up or figured it out later in life.

A wake-up call, however, might just do the trick.

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