Struggling to find someone to date? You’re not alone. Many men face this challenge, especially with online dating. But why is it so hard – and what can you do about it?
Why Online Dating Feels Impossible
The numbers are against you. A small percentage of guys get most of the attention on dating apps, leaving many struggling for matches.
If you haven’t had a date in a while, there’s another factor at play: neediness. Dating apps track user behavior, and if you swipe too much, reply instantly, or seem too eager, the algorithm pushes you down – showing you fewer high-quality options.
What About Dating in Real Life?
If online dating isn’t working, the next question is: Are you meeting women in real life? Many guys aren’t. Questions to ask yourself:
• Do you regularly meet new people?
• Do you leave the house enough?
• If you see a woman you like, do you go talk to her?
If meeting an interesting woman is already rare, doesn’t it make sense to take action when you do?
Are You Trying Too Hard?
This is something I’ve seen a lot – with myself and with clients. When you’re actively searching for women, it creates the wrong energy. Women can sense when a guy is too focused on finding someone. Instead, the right ones tend to appear naturally when you’re just living your life with purpose.
The Right Balance
To start attracting better matches – online and offline – you need three things:
1. More exposure – So you actually meet women
2. Less neediness – So you don’t push them away
3. More focus – So you recognize the right one when she’s in front of you
A simple way to stay focused? Write down the top 10 traits you want in an ideal woman. When you know what you’re looking for, dating gets easier.
So what if the real issue isn’t online dating – but how you respond when it actually counts?
If you’ve ever seen a woman in real life and wanted to talk to her but didn’t… you’re not alone. That hesitation is more common than you think – and it’s the real reason many men stay stuck.
Want to change that?
Download my free guide: Approaching Anxiety Cure – 10 things that keep men from going for what they want.
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