A guy recently asked online:

“My girlfriend told me she lost feelings for me. But she’s coming to see me in a week to talk about our relationship. What should I do to reattract her?”

First of all, this isn’t the end – but how you handle things from here will be crucial.

If she’s truly lost all interest, she wouldn’t bother meeting up. She’d just break up or quietly move on. So the fact that she’s coming to talk means there’s still a chance – but only if you approach this the right way.

Step 1: Don’t Be Needy. Don’t Beg. Listen Closely.

This is where most guys make their biggest mistake:

• They panic.

• They beg her to stay.

• They promise they’ll “change.”

And all of that just makes things worse.

Neediness is the most unattractive thing you can show right now. If she senses desperation, she’ll pull away even more.

Step 2: Understand What Changed

If she says she lost feelings for you, that means she had them in the first place. So what changed?

Women don’t always explain this directly, and even if they do, they might not fully understand it themselves. Attraction isn’t logical – it’s based on how she feels when she’s around you.

So instead of asking her directly, start by reflecting on these key areas:

Step 3: Ask Yourself These Questions

   1. Are you still listening    
   to her?

• Not just hearing her words, but actually understanding what’s going on in her world?

• When she talks, do you pay attention, or have you started tuning her out over time?

• When she comes over, listen carefully. If she brings up something you did that hurt her, don’t just defend yourself. Instead, ask: “How did that make you feel?” and let her talk.

   2. Are you still the   
   confident, independent
   guy she fell for?

• At the beginning, you were fun, interesting, and had your own life. Have you become too passive?

• Are you still leading? Still taking initiative? Still making decisions?

• Or have you jsut been coasting in the relationship?

   3. Are you taking
   responsibility?

• Are you still planning dates? Setting goals together?

• Do you still have your own drive, ambitions, and hobbies? Or have you let yourself go -stopped working out, stopped pursuing the things you were passionate about?
The ability to be responsible is one of the most overlooked areas when it comes to attraction.

• How’s your life outside the relationship? Women don’t just fall for a guy—they fall for the energy he brings.

   4. Has your
   communication turned
   stale?

• Are you still flirting and keeping things fun, or has everything become predictable and routine?

• Do you still surprise her, or has the relationship become too structured and repetitive?

• Are you going on autopilot, always doing the same things at the same time?

   5. Did you give her
   enough space?

• Even if you don’t live together, maybe you were still  too available—texting too much, always picking up, always saying yes.

• Were you too eager to please? Too dependent on her attention?

These are the key things to reflect on before you see her.

Step 4: What to Do When She Comes Over

• Stay relaxed. Treat this like a conversation, not an interrogation.

• Listen more than you talk. If she shares what’s bothering her, let her finish – don’t interrupt, don’t defend, don’t try to “fix” it right away.

• Don’t make empty promises. Women don’t believe words—they believe consistent actions over time.

Step 5: Whatever You Do, Do It for Yourself

If you realize you need to make some changes, do it for you—not for her.

And don’t try to prove anything to her. The moment you start “showing” her how much better you are, it comes off as needy. That’s the last thing you want.

At most, if the conversation calls for it, you can say something like:

“Thanks for making me aware of this blind spot. Even though the wake-up call was painful, I’m glad I got it. I’ve used it, and I know I won’t fall back into old patterns.”

Then let your actions do the rest.

If there’s still attraction left, this will give it a chance to come back. And if she still decides to leave? You’ll walk away knowing you handled it like a man – with self-respect intact.

Summary

Women don’t lose feelings overnight. Something changed. Your job is to figure out what and take responsibility – not to convince her with words, but to let your actions speak.

• Stay confident.

• Stay grounded.

• And most importantly—don’t make her your mission. Make your own life your mission.

That’s what will make her see you differently. And if she doesn’t? Then you’ll know you’re better off moving forward instead of clinging to something that’s already gone.

Lots of success!

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